Polyamorous rules that are dating. Polyamory: Some Thoughts on Guidelines

Polyamorous rules that are dating. Polyamory: Some Thoughts on Guidelines

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We generally have always been maybe perhaps not a fan of rules-based relationships, especially in polyamory. I’ve discovered, throughout most of my relationships, which they have a tendency to work most readily useful you should definitely governed by a codex of laws that will produce a bureaucrat blush.

Usually, once I state that, people can look at me personally as if i have sprouted a additional mind. «just how can you have got a relationship without guidelines?» I have been expected by poly people. «after all, certain, which is all well and good they want with no commitment, but you can’t build real relationships that way! if you just want anarchy, with people running around doing whatever»

Which can be a little bit of a head-scratcher if you ask me, as it seems quite a bit just like a monogamous person telling a poly individual «just how can you have got a relationship without monogamy? After all, certain, that is all well and good they want with no commitment, but you can’t build real relationships that way! if you just want anarchy, with people running around shagging whoever»

It really is a normal peoples thing, i guess, to look at world in polar terms: if you have no monogamy, then meaning promiscuity and indiscriminate shagging; if there are not any guidelines, then this means anarchy and chaos. But that’sn’t actually the instance. (más…)

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